Conflict Resolution Training:

Conflict=Disagreement and Nothing More

 

Have you ever noticed that the way you see something is the way it is for you?


If you view conflict as a war in which there is a winner and a loser, then you might avoid conflict. After all, no one wants to be in a war.


If you view conflict as a contest for power, then you might act aggressively in every conflict. After all, no one wants to lose.


But suppose you viewed conflict nothing more than simple disagreement because of different points of view? If you did so, then you might see conflict as an opportunity instead of a problem. You might even begin to look forward to conflicts because disagreements are the very foundation of creative solutions to our problems.


Consider: when someone disagrees with us, we have the opportunity to examine our beliefs, attitudes and behaviors. When someone disagrees with us, we have the opportunity to learn a new way--and perhaps more effective way--of believing and behaving.  If everyone in our life were in complete agreement with us, our relationships may go very smoothly, but there’d be little possibility for our growth and development.


You may have disagreements with your spouse, your business partners and your friends. You may read an editorial in a newspaper and disagree with people you’ve never even met! All of these disagreements are potential opportunities for you to learn new ways of being and behaving.


If you will only give up your need to be right, you will find that a world full of conflict is also a world full of possibility.